Question

What issues would an adult after having a resistant attachment with his/her mother?

Answer 1

• When adequate attachment between child and caregiver is lacking, the child grows up with an impaired ability to trust that the world is a safe place, and that others will take good care of her.
• Childhood abandonment, unpredictable parental behavior, unrealistic parental expectations, and physical, verbal or emotional abuse teach the child that her environment is not a safe place and that the people she encounters cannot be trusted.
• An insecure attachment style can lead to serious difficulties handling romantic relationships, work relationships and friendship later on in life during adulthood.
  
• Having an insecure/resistant attachment style, by contrast, would lead an as an adult to avoid closeness with others in a relationship.
• There are two main types of adult insecure attachment style, the anxious (or "dependent") and the avoidant.
• People with an avoidant attachment style don’t care about close relationships and prefer not to be too dependent on other people and prefer that others are not too dependent on them.
• They tend to avoid close romantic relationships and intimate friendships. They have difficulties trusting others and are unable to share their feelings with friends or partners because most of their emotions aren’t felt.
• Anxiously attached individuals are compulsive caregivers and over-invest themselves emotionally. They desire extensive contact and declarations of affections and praise and are preoccupied with and depend on the relationship or friendship.
• The relationship or friendship is the primary means by which they can experience a sense of security and a sense of self. They tend to idealize others and idealize relationships and friendships.
• They tend to put romantic partners and friends on a pedestal and keep nourishing their dream of the perfect, grand relationship. They have a deep desire for partners or friends to reciprocate.
• They worry that others may not love them completely, and they are easily embittered or irated when their attachment needs are not met.
• They expect their emotional investment to be returned in the form of praise and affection, and have a deeply irrational desire for partners or friends to share the same dream.
• Their personalities as adults are grotesquely twisted by their intense emotions, most frequently morbid or even murderous jealousy.