Question

What are some characteristics of a securely attached child?
What advice would you offer to the parents of an insecurely attached child?
What advice would you offer to expectant parents hoping to foster a secure attachment with their child?
Do you think sending a child to daycare will have an impact on the child-parent attachment? Why/why not?

Answer 1

1. Secure attachment is classified by children who show so much distress when their caregiver leaves but are able to compose themselves knowing that their caregiver will return. Children with secure attachment feel protected by their caregivers, and they know that they can depend on them to return.
2. Children who are insecurely attached have learned that adults are not reliable, and do not trust easily. The parents to these kids need to know that no matter what the situation is, they have to juggle to hold a dear position in their hearts always. It will be a tough journey to start from the scratch, but all of us will sail through the end of time.
3. The parents need to know that the child will be very demanding of their time. He would seek full attention form them no matter what the situation is. He would always try to validate that they are there for him. He would not let them leave him. They may have a tough time to get used to it but patience is the key.
4. Sending a child to day care will surely have some influence on him. This will depend on the person who takes care of them in that facility and the kind of values that are taught to them over there. The child will get used to the fact that parents will not always be there for them and they would need their own time for it as well.