Question

1. How can you make someone realize that his or her behavior is causing you a problem? 2. What would you do if you told someone that his or her behavior was a problem for you and the person reacted as though he or she really did not care? 3. What would you do to help someone engage in reflection? 4. Discuss how you generally show your anger to a significant other person in your life. 5. Discuss your experiences with conversations and sell-jobs in your daily life.

Answer 1

Self-revaluation leads to an inflated or a deflated self-concept and self-esteem. I would never make a random person realize their behaviour being a cause of problem to me. I would only bother telling somebody really close to me that their behaviour, for instance, aggression or lying is problematic. I would perhaps sit the person down and tell the person how his behaviour is not good for his own self and that it must be improved if not change. I would never say it in a way that instead of realizing, it affects their self-concept and that they begin self-deprecating themselves. However, I would only make him understand that how his behaviour has repercussions and only because I care, I chose to bring it up with him.

Every individual cares about what others think about them. However, it is important to gauge whether a person said it out of concern or malice. Some people can say mean things just to demean the other. However, if the person I care for reacts as though he does not care, he is clearly living in denial. The ability to not self contemplate, especially after being told that a certain behaviour is problematic, are signs of denial. A person needs to be helped from this state and made to understand that whatever is being said is for their betterment without any ulterior motives.