Question

In your own words, with all the information you are learning about human sexuality, and making relationships work, what information has been most useful? Why do you think that many people who know there is information that can help them make better relationships don't bother to look for it or use it? Is it possible you could be one of these people?

Answer 1

Parts 1- To make relationships work need something more than sexuality. Though sexuality is a way to connect or to carry on relationship but also affected when relationship is in problematic phase. To live a healthy relationship person needs to put extra efforts for it. Person needs to nurture that relationship. Some important informations or behaviors to carry on relationship are; healthy communication, mutual decisions over matters related to finances, sexuality, households, future planning etc; sharing (especially emotional catharsis), listening actively to your partner (also comes under communication), solving disputes through communication rather than avoiding (but to avoid dispute can leave that situation at that moment). Other than these, trust, caring behavior and freedom are also important traits needed to live healthy and long lasting relationship. By implementing all these behaviors, partners will automatically have positive effect on their sexual life as well. Better relationship is a result of implementation and practice of all these behavioral skills.

Part 2- Yes, there are many informations are available to make relationship better and people either don't look for them or don't use/ implement them in their life. This can be because of their preoccupation with problematic thoughts related to relationship. For example some argument occurred between partners then individual can be occupied with the matter of argument or comments of partner over that matter. And these thoughts run again and again in his/her mind resulting emotional distress. Because of dominance of negative thoughts, person became unable to think of positive solutions or things to be implemented for solving problem. Here person need to over come negative thinking pattern or behaviour by positive one. Practically person needs to give some time to calm himself/herself and then start working on the issue. Here person can also take professional help if find himself/herself unable to handle. Once individual's mind is calm or free from negative thoughts then he/she can implement the informations given for better relationships.

Part 3- Yes it is possible for anybody to ignore or not to implement infomations/ tips given for making relationships better. Because as mentioned in part 2, any person can go through the phase of negative thinking or behaviour and it prevents person to look for solutions. Reasons for not implementing informations can be avoided by self efforts or by taking professional help and person can work for betterment of their relationships.