Question

In your own words, why do people fake orgasm? Is it ever good for a relationship? Should someone who has been faking confess this to their partner? Why or why not? What would you say if your partner told you that he or she had been consistently faking orgasms since you first started having sexual relations?

Answer 1

I believe that people fake an orgasm either to reassure their partner that they are enjoying the sexual act or to bring about an end to it without making it apparent to the partner. Faking an orgasm does involve some amount of deception and this would not be beneficial for the relationship of it becomes a common occurrence. If it happens as a stray event, I don’t think it would cause any harm as the ultimate idea is to not offend the partner.

If faking an orgasm has been occurring repeatedly in a relationship, it makes sense to have a discussion about it with one’s partner. One should attempt to analyse what might be going wrong in the sexual act that is leading to the faking. Also since the act involves both parties, it would be more beneficial if the partner conveyed his/her views on the same. Of course, communicating this can be quite delicate and thus needs to be handled with caution.

I would be quite shocked if I were at the receiving end of such a situation. I would question my sexual competency and my physical attractiveness. I would also feel highly insecure about my partner.