Question

Habit 4 is Think Win-Win. In a 2-page paper, describe 4 ways you can make deposits in other people's emotional bank accounts. Describe a time when you felt happy for another person's success and a time when you struggled with social comparison. If you have never struggled with social comparison, describe how social media can make it challenging to be happy for others' success.

Answer 1

Emotional intelligence is defined as the ability to understand and control one’s own and another’s emotional nature. It is thus based on the four key abilities –

• Ability to manage one’s own emotions
• Ability to manage another’s emotions.
• Ability to understand one’s own emotions.
• Ability to understand another’s emotions.

Therefore, if we want to deposit something emotional in another’s emotional bank account, then the transaction must be based on these four key factors. It means the person must have these key abilities to do this. Specifically, the ability to manage one’s own and another one’s emotions is crucial for depositing in other’s emotional bank. It simply means to influence the person through one’s own emotional understanding and management.

Social media can indeed make it difficult to feel good for another person’s happiness. When social media provide a powerful social comparison, we start to compare ourselves with the rest of the people on social media. Then it creates a challenging time to be happy for others. People under the influence of the powerful social comparison are not concentrated on the primary matter, i.e. the happiness of other people, rather they start diverting from it towards the social comparison. Further, it makes people anxious about their present situation which they underestimate in comparison with others.