Question

Explain a specific example in which you utilized problem solving strategies to resolve a real world problem.

Answer 1

As I moved out of home town to join college , for the initial days it was fun. And my girl/boy friend was all proud that I could make it to my dream college and course. We had discussed it before and he/she was all supportive and motivating myself for it when ever he/she remembered it. But after first two months as I got busy with accademic schedules she/he started complainng that I am not reaching for her/him as before. Initially it was just nagging and disapproval. As weeks passed by, even for the times I could find myself call him/her up, sooner or later the talk become arguments and later into quarrels. When it aggravated I realize that it might result in a break up. So on the first instance when a weekend and holiday came together I took a few days leave and head back to hometown to meet him/her and talk out the issue.

Me travelling had milded down him/her a bit. We could agree that there was something that need to be sorted out between us. That essentially prepared us for solving the problem. We decided to note down what all the difficulties we facing . She/he was feeling myself to be not as emotionally concerened where as I found that the moment I reach for him/her , she/he starts with an irritable tone which makes myself to point out thinks factually and this in turn resulted in an argument. So we found some time for listening to each other. Then we decided to take one issue at a time and solve it to move forward . We aggreed that no issue from the past will be brought up and only the current issue will be discussed. Then we talked about the time unavailability due to my academic commitment. And we agreed that if we couldn't talk for a few days I would be leaving a small message and she/he shouldnt be bringing that complaint again (practical arangement was agreed upon after taking his/her suggestion ; brain storming?) . She/he agreed to condescend to be understanding(inaccurate expectations were addressed and were successfully challenged without argument). I had to address her/his insecurity feelings and clear his/her doubt that I might be meeting someone else and soon leave him/her ( deeper analyzing the problem). After returning I followed the commitments made ( this brought back confidence in her/him ) and she/he started milding his/her tone ( She/he was able to evaluate the outcome). Soon we could get back to warmth in our relationship when ever we could get time to talk.