Question

What types of parenting can be identified from this essay? Please explain why you chose these types of parenting. (a few sentences on each type of parenting.) According to Baumrind (2005), there are four identified styles of parenting: authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and neglectful.

Here is the essay:

I didn't grow up in a horrible environment, but I didn't grow in a household filled with love and support that I so desired from my parents, especially my mother.  I grew up in a two-parent household with fighting and arguing was the everyday norm.  Communication and education were not essential or employed by neither my parents nor my grandparents. My mother was the head of the family; she called all the shots; my father went to work every day, he had two jobs for most of my upbringing. I struggled with a relationship with my mother, growing up. I was not close to her and still struggle to gain a more intimate relationship with her. My mother style of communication and disciplinary tactics was very unkind and harsh.   

The essay:

I didn't grow up in a horrible environment, but I didn't grow in a household filled with love and support that I so desired from my parents, especially my mother.  I grew up in a two-parent household with fighting and arguing was the everyday norm.  Communication and education were not essential or employed by neither my parents nor my grandparents. My mother was the head of the family; she called all the shots; my father went to work every day, he had two jobs for most of my upbringing. I struggled with a relationship with my mother, growing up. I was not close to her and still struggle to gain a more intimate relationship with her. My mother style of communication and disciplinary tactics was very unkind and harsh.

I had a very close relationship with my father, I lost my father to cancer seven years ago, and I still deal with the pain.  I had such a special bond with my daddy; he was my support system and my best friend, and my entire world. Both of my parents never received their diploma and only completed the 11th grade, my grandparent on both sides couldn't read or write. Growing up in my family circumstances, I didn't want children, not because I felt like I couldn't be a good mother, but I thought I didn't have an excellent example on how to be a mother that "I" wanted to be toward my children if I were to have any. My mother would tell me how her childhood was and it wasn't pleasant for her, she only parented the way she knew how too.  

My goal was to graduate high school and go off to college and make something of myself, but that didn't happen to me right away, God had a different plan. My mother had nine siblings, my father had seven siblings, and my parents had four children. Education was not important to my parents, as long as we (my siblings and I) didn't get any trouble in school my parents never came to school for any reason to support their children in any capacity: sports, teacher conferences, meet and greets nothing... In the 12th grade, when most kids were looking at colleges, my parents told me that they couldn't afford to send me to college and I wasn't able to attend college like most of my friends.  

After graduation, I found a stable job and two years after graduating I had my first child. When I found out I was pregnant, I was scared and frightened, I had no idea about being a mother. The day I gave birth to my daughter, the nurse handed me this 7lb, 1oz screaming baby and I looked at her as I was crying and I whispered to her that I love you and I will tell you every day I love you and I will donwhat's best at becoming a good mom.

From that day forward, I supported my daughter in everything she did. I raised my daughter as a single mother, I dealt with many and I mean many life struggles but my focus each day was my daughter. I attended every; pom-pom try-out, pep rally, soccer practices and games, six years of dance recitals, performances, gymnastic events, my daughter was able to look in any stand, sideline and knew I was there cheering her on.

I embedded in my daughter's head early on; college was her only option and to follow her dreams. I wanted to be an example for my children who encouraged me to enroll in college a few years ago and will be graduating in December of 2018. In my daughter's 12th grade year, she applied to several colleges and was accepted to all her colleges. The day she graduated high school with honors that was my proudest moment as a parent. Last year, when she graduated from Frostburg State University with a dual degree was the next proudest moment as a parent. I did this as a single mother, and she thanks me every day and always working to make me proud of her, and I am.

I believe communicating and supporting my daughter and now my son shaped my relationship with each of my children. I love talking and listening to what my children has to say and what's on their mind. No matter how tired, sick, frustrated and what life struggle for the day brings me, my children never will fill not supported, or not loved. I make my mission to ask my children every day "How was your day?" and I tell them every morning and night that "I love you." I am dedicated and determined to break my family's cycle, and I broke the cycle...

Answer 1

The attitude and behaviour of the mother can be classified under a neglected behaviour. It is a behaviour in which the parents do not look after their children. There is lack of care and lack of understanding of the demands and the necessities of their children. The communication of the mother in this example was harsh and severe with serious arguments leading to bitterness in relations with their children Children feel depressed and suffocated due to the formation of a harsh environment at home and leading to development of mental distortion in their children. In such a condition, there is lack of understanding, coordination and communication between the parents with their children. The children feel depressed and sad. There are many factors which lead to the development of such a situation in life like traumatic situations and presence of many siblings in the family which compete for the available resources and growth in the family. It is classified under the Laissez Faire or Uninvolved parenting style where is lack of concern shown by the parents towards their children which is harmful for their upbringing in their life. The children belonging to such families show lack of attitude in life with lack of interest in studies. There is a chance of indulgence in drugs during their adolescent years of growth and development.