Question

Popular songs indicate that we "fall in love" as if we do not have any control over it. Discuss if this is so. Discuss one theory or study presented in the text on interpersonal attraction or love. What increases or decreases it? Include an evaluation of whether "falling in love" is a decision or a feeling, or both. Include one factor that plays a role in maintaining relationships long-term. What makes long-term relationships different than short-term?

Answer 1

Its exactly so , that falling in love is uncontrollable. Peoples can,t control themselves as it is connected to heart. Few hormones in a particular ages works and which makes peoples uncontrollable to fall in love. Mentality matching , matching of tastes of choices , thoughts or some basic values which both are aware of or they have same values for it increases the attraction towards other personality. If such trusts are broken somehow , then loves decreases as attraction decreases. Another point of view is that peoples are attracted to each other when they are unknown to each other but after some years of togetherness monotony generates in the relationships then also the attraction decreases. Falling in love is not a decision , its a feeling of the new insights which he or she gathers but staying in love is a pure decision only .

To maintain a relationship on longterm one needs to connect with the mind of the other partner and that only happens if the tastes, choices , likes, dislikes matches with each other. Thus one should be very carefull of these things since the begining of a relationship which will help ownself to understand that wheather he or she is in a right or wrong relationship. Physical relaationship is an important factor in any relationship and through this relation dependability develops . The critical point is that in the starting partners neglects the minds and they are attracted physically and afterwards when the physical attraction decreases relationships comes to an end, this thing happens in most of the short term relationships. To be in longterm relationship with anybody connecting with the minds and maintaining faithfullness to the partner is the only way to continue following other things in a relationship to make it more successfull.