In: Nursing
1.Giving reassurance
Explanation/Rationale: Indicating to the client that
there is no cause for anxiety; thereby devaluing the
client’s feelings; may discourage the client from further
expression of feelings if he or she believes they will
only be downplayed or ridiculed.
Examples: “I wouldn’t worry about that if I were you.”
“Everything will be all right.”
Better to say: “We will work on that together.”
2.Rejecting
Explanation/Rationale: Refusing to consider or
showing contempt for the client’s ideas or behavior.
This may cause the client to discontinue interaction
with the nurse for fear of rejection.
Examples: “Let’s not discuss…” “I don’t want to hear
about…” “Don’t say that.” Better to say: “Let’s look at
that a little closer.”
3.Approving
or
disapproving
Explanation/Rationale: Sanctioning or denouncing
the client’s ideas or behavior; implies that the nurse
has the right to pass judgment on whether the client’s
ideas or behaviors are “good” or “bad”, and that the
client is expected to please the nurse. The nurse’s
acceptance of the client is then seen as conditional
depending on the client’s behavior.
Examples: “That’s right. I agree.” “That’s wrong. I
disagree.” “I don’t believe that.” Better to say: “Let’s
talk about how your behavior invoked anger in the
other clients at dinner.”
4.Agreeing or disagreeing
Explanation/Rationale: Indicating accord with or
opposition to the client’s ideas or opinions; implies that
the nurse has the right to pass judgment on whether
the client’s ideas or opinions are “right” or “wrong”.
Agreement prevents the client from later modifying his
or her point of view without admitting error.
Disagreement implies inaccuracy, provoking the need
for defensiveness on the part of the client.
Examples: “That’s right. I agree.” “That’s wrong. I
disagree.” “I don’t believe that.” Better to say: “Let’s
discuss what you feel is unfair about the new
community rules.”
5.Making stereotyped comments
Explanation/Rationale: Making empty conversation
encourages a similar response from the client. Cliches
and trite expressions are meaningless in a nurse-client
relationship.
Examples: “I’m fine, and how are you?” “Hang in there.
It’s for your own good.” “Keep your chin up.” Better to
say: “The therapy must be difficult for you at times.
How do you feel about your progress at this point?”