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Description: Conflict Management

Please choose one questions and explain in detail your response in no less than 1000 words. . Please be sure to use the APA format for your paper presentation which must have a separate cover page and reference page. !

1. How and individual views conflict is often times influenced by how conflict was addressed (or not addressed) in their families as they grew up. Reflect back to your childhood. Was conflict more openly addressed or avoided? Do you approach conflict in a similar manner now as an adult ? If not , was a conscious decision made to approach conflict differently.?

2.Oftentimes, conflict aftermath far exceeds the scope of significance of the original conflict . For example , a relatively small difference in opinion could escalate to manifest conflict if others become involved and retaliation begins. Think of a conflict in your life where a relatively small conflict escalated into manifest conflict with significant conflict aftermath. Was there a point at which this progression of conflict could have been avoided or minimized?

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Answer 1

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Answer:

1. MY CHILDHOOD CONFLICT

My changing outlook

I was brought up in a really strict Catholic family. It was just expected that we would go to church every Sunday and that we would "uphold the Catholic faith" as my parents put it. I never bothered to rebel against religion like many of my friends did. For some reason I couldn't quite subject myself to my parent's disappointment.

Never saw eye to eye

My parents and I never really saw eye to eye about anything. When I was younger it was just the simple stuff - the length of my skirt, how I chose to wear my hair or the movies I wanted to watch. But as I got older I found that there was a lot more that we didn't agree on - my choice of friends, what I wanted to study at uni, political issues or how I chose to spend my weekends.

I left home at 17 to study at a university in another city. Moving away from home has totally broadened my outlook on the world and has changed my opinion on lots of issues. Over the past two years I've met the most amazing people with the most extraordinarily diverse experiences. My circle of friends includes people with different religions, beliefs, values, cultures and different ways of approaching life. But the great thing is we respect each other's opinions. I've learnt to question what I've been taught and not always agree just because that is what "everybody else" thinks.

My mum didn't agree

The first couple of times I went home to visit my parents I found it really hard to cope. I found it hard to deal with not being able to express my opinions as freely as I did when I was away from home. My mum didn't necessarily agree with my upfront attitude to life. While I was always out there trying to get people to take me and my beliefs and opinions seriously, her attitude was "why fight it... why not just go with the flow." It was really frustrating. I used to get really upset that my parents didn't agree with what I was doing.

I kept at it though. I used to ring home and tell mum about a new project or committee I'd become involved with and even though I could just see her cringing on the other end of the phone line, I tried to remember why I was doing what I was doing or why I held the beliefs that I did. I found that I really had to remind myself that it was okay to have the opinions that I did, but also that it was okay for my mum to have her viewpoint too.

Respect

The thing I loved about my friends was that we all respected each other's opinions. I had a chat to a friend about it and I eventually realised that if I wanted my parents to respect what I had to say I had to try and respect their viewpoint too. As tough as it was, once I made an effort to respect their values and opinions, getting along with my parents has been a lot easier.

Managing conflict with your teenager

Below are some tips to try when effectively managing conflict with your teenager.

• Talk about it. Timing is important – wait until everybody has calmed down, and talk to your child about how the conflict has affected them.
• No personal attacks. Don’t shout or name call. Avoid using communication that blames the other person.
• Take responsibility. If you’ve said something that has offended your child, own it and apologise.
• Listen actively. Really try to understand your teenagers’ perspective. Asking for feedback on the situation and how you approached it can be very powerful, and show you’re openness to understand their feelings.
• Focus on the issue as hand. Don’t bring up old issues from the past.
• Manage negative emotions. Try not to get lost in emotions or take things too personally. This can be hard, and timing the conversation once the heat of the situation dies down in important.
• Look for growth opportunities. Is there anything that can be learned from the situation? For example, has it made expectations clearer, or have you learned something about each other from the situation. Find and talk about the positives.

CONFLICT MANAGEMENT

Minimising family conflict

Once you have resolved the immediate impacts of conflict, you can try some things to help with minimising and managing family conflict and improve relationships going forward.

• Organise family meetings where everyone gets a chance to speak their mind and help work out solutions to problems.
• Set limits and consequences for your child so that they’re aware of consequences for their choices in behaviour. Consistent boundaries assist children in feeling secure in their environment.
• Agree to disagree with your child. Help them understand that a natural part of growing up is having differences in opinions and that it is ok that you don’t agree all the time.
• Establish family traditions, routines and rituals to encourage family members to feel connected. This may be a regular movie night at home, a family games night or cooking dinner together.
• Stay connected to your child by showing interest in their activities, hobbies and friends. Try to spend some enjoyable one-on-one time with them to help strengthen your relationship.
• If you’ve tried the steps above and the conflict continues or family members do not feel safe then it might be time to seek professional help.

Conflict is a normal part of family life and can often escalate during teenage years. About 1 in 5 young people say they are concerned about family conflict, which can arise for many different reasons. There are simple tools parents can use to help minimise the impact of conflict on their children and strengthen family relationships.

This can help if you:

• notice that fighting is increasing in your home
• want to know the reasons why conflict arises
• want to know ways to manage and minimise family conflict.

What is family conflict?

Conflict is the normal process through which people resolve differences. When people live together under the same roof, there are bound to be disagreements and arguments as personalities clash and everyone wants to be heard. This is one of the most common teenage problems with parents which may lead to ongoing parent teenager conflict.

This can increase during adolescence in particular, as it’s normal for teenagers to seek independence and separation from their parents. Other causes of family fighting can be differences in opinions, poor communication, changes in the family (such as a new baby or divorce), sibling rivalry or discipline issues.

Also remember that, as your child moves through their teenage years, they’re still learning the life skills that they will need for adult life. Dealing with conflict effectively is likely to be something that they’re inexperienced in, and as a parent you can play an important role in helping them develop this skill.

How family conflict can influence your child

Conflict in families can impact children in many ways and long-term exposure to conflict may be psychologically damaging. Children can be influenced by family issues like fighting in a number of ways.

• Some children and adolescents may act out by showing increased aggression, defiance and behavioral problems.
• Your child may experience depressive symptoms, such as feeling lonely or sad, or isolating themselves in their bedroom for long periods.
• Children exposed to parental conflict may experience feelings of anxiety or feel pressure to divide their loyalty between parents.

There are things you can do to help your child manage family conflict here.

When conflict becomes aggression

Anger and conflict between parents and teenagers is a normal part of family life, and often very prevalent in teenagers who are going through big physical and emotional changes. However when conflict turns into aggression or violence, it may be time to get help. Young people that are exposed to violence or abuse in the family home, or other parts of their life, are more likely to become violent themselves. If you’re concerned about your own safety, or the safety of other family members, then contact 1800RESPECT, a national domestic family violence counselling service.