Question

Are courtship, preparation, and motivation to remarry different than in first relationship and marriage? How does the presence of children affect a remarriage and make this process more or less difficult? What other factors - that typically are not considered in the first relationship and marriage - might be considered by someone who is remarrying?

Answer 1

in the first marriage, the emotional expenditure would be much less as compared to the second marriage. When a person gets divorced, the processwould be highly emotionally taxing, such that the person may not want to get married for the second time in their life.

It is important for the people attempting remarriage to understand that they should not attempt to find someone who would be completing them. People might completely lose faith in love or in a relationship and might not want to re indulge in any such phase of life, and this might become even more difficult if there is a kid. The questions come in mind if the new person would be a good father to the child or if the child would be able to accept the new parent.

Moreover, after the first marriage, people tend to realise the mistakes that they had committed. They tend to identify their faults and loopholes and the fact that in a relationship, a person should be what they are, and no one should attempt to themselves or the other person.

While remarrying,the most important aspect is honesty and acceptance. People begin to be sympathetic as well as being patient at the same time. Also, people realise the while in a relationship, transparency would hold utmost importance .

Also, at this rate, the realisation that it is important to enjoy life as much as working hard, strokes a person, thus, making them mindful.

Most importantly, it is important that the ex should be forgiven, if not forgotten. In order to obtain inner peace, it would be best to accept that it was 50% fault of the two and that not one person was responsible for the bad relationship.