Question

First, I want you to pick something that you have been thinking about changing in you life (maybe a major decision) but have been on the fence in doing it or unsuccessful in getting to it. Something that you are willing to talk about in class that's appropriate. It must be meaningful (Not something like -- I have been thinking about changing the shower curtain). It may be something that you have attempted to change in the past or maybe not. Yet, it is something that is often at the forefront in your thinking or that you are waiting for a "perfect" time to do it. Be concrete, just pick one thing, e.g, I want to go on a diet to lose 10 lbs, I want to start going to the gym several times a week, I have be thinking of getting a personal training certificate, or I want to quite smoking. Once you name it, access the article from the UMUC library, In Search of How People Change: Applications to addictive behaviors by Prochaska, DiClemente, and Norcoss. Source: The American Psychologist. Sept, 1992, Vol. 47 Issue 9, p1102, 13 p. Read this seminal work. Then read this client-version:

https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/why-behavior-change-is-hard-and-why-you-should-keep-trying

Then write your post. Introduction what you have been thinking about changing, then use the resources above (only) and discussion the stage that you are currently in and justify in detail (a sentence or two won't do) why you selected this stage versus others. Make sure you indicate why you are not in the other stages too. There are many people who have fraudulently taken this model and added stages -- only use this resources. Don't take a short-cut and only read the client-friendly version :) because your post will reflect this. Remember always paragraph form -- and this is a minimum of a 2 paragraph submission for your own post.

This stage of change model is used in alcohol treatment programs to determine treatment strategies!

Answer 1

for long i have been juggling with my temper issues that has made me so weak that i am unable to think about any specific thing in life no matter how much i try doing it. There have also been times when i did sit down in a peaceful manner and give it a thought how this actually began. For the longest time in my childhood, i had always been the peaceful person who never landed in any kind of argument. I used to be the problem solver for all my friends. But that one childhood incident changed my life. I went to a friend's place and i saw her father beating her like crazy, so much so that she was bleeding form her neck. I ran away form the place, locked my self in my room and had built that image of men being aggressive and form that day till today, i have never liked men.

I have so much hatred and aggression for them that i just loose my cool while talking to them no matter how much i keep trying all the while to become a better being for myself. But i need to grow past this feeling of pre assumed judgment for all men even when it was just one who did all the wrong. I need to develop a different outlook towards life and try to have faith in the goodness around. I need to believe that no matter how far I go, people will come and go to teach a lesson. I just need to adapt to it and try moving on with grace and dignity.