Question

summarize in your own words adapting to 'living-dying” (Elisabeth kubler Ross model the 5 stages of grief) and apply in your own life (personal experiences or observations).

Answer 1

• These stages represent the normal range of feelings people experience when dealing with change in their lives - or in the workplace.All change involves loss at some level. The "Five stages" model is used to understand how people react to change at different times.
• 1.Denial is usually a temporary defense that gives us time to absorb news of change before moving on to other stages. It is the initial stage of numbness and shock. We don't want to believe that the change is happening.When my grandmother got her third paralytic attack she lost her voice and body movement,which shocked all of us,that how could it happen to such a strong lady like her and we just couldnt accept it.
• 2.When we realise that the change is real and will affect us our denial usually turns to anger. Now we get angry and look to blame someone or something else for making this happen to us.We blamed each other for not taking good care of her,for not being there for her and just being careless about her health.
  
• 3.Bargaining-This is a natural reaction of those who are dying. It's an attempt to postpone what is inevitable. We often see the same sort of behaviour happening when people are facing change.We were praying to God,that make her well, and we as a family will make sure to always be beside her and never leave her alone nor fight amongst ourselves and stay together as a family.
  
• 4.Depression-When we realize that bargaining is not going to work the reality of the change sets in. At this point we become aware of the losses associated with the change and what we have to leave behind.The whole family inlcuding myself were losing hope of keeping hr alive.We all were so dejected and lost seeing her in that vegetative state,not being able to communicate with her and just feeling helpless.
• 5.As people realize that fighting the change is not going to make it go away they move into a stage of acceptance.We accepted finally,that rather than her suffering this way,its better to go away even if we didnt wanted it but we also couldnt see her suffer like this all day and live helplessly.It took us time to accept her death but I guess it was for the best since it ended her suffering.