Question

According to Gary Chapman, when it comes to couple’s conflict styles, there are love languages, list the five he describes and give an explanation of each. What is the one issue that can cause problems with these love languages.

Answer 1

The five languages of love as described by Gary Chapman are stated as under:

1. Words of Affirmation: These involve compliments, praises or words of appreciation to another individual and serve as communicators of love. Words of affirmation are best expressed in simple and straightforward statements.

2. Acts of Service: These acts require engaging in activities that would please and be appreciated by the other individual. Acts of service usually involve planning, time, and effort but should be carried out with a positive attitude.

3. Receiving Gifts: Giving gifts is a concrete and tangible expression of love. Gifts are symbolic expressions that can denote several meanings, depending on its type and the occasion on which it is given.

4. Quality Time: Spending quality time requires giving one’s undivided attention to the other individual, and not engaging in tasks that distract them from one another.

5. Physical Touch: Physical touch is a powerful way of expressing one’s internal emotions. As a part of the human species, all individuals require physical stimulation in the form of touching, stroking, cuddling, kissing etc for healthy emotional development.

An issue when it comes to love languages is that every individual speaks a different love language, called the primary language, which they learn from their parents and childhood experiences. The recognition and acceptance of this primary language can be difficult and challenging.