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Case Scenario Mr Park is a heart patient who had a heart bypass recently. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family but ever since his heart bypass, he is not able to continue working. His wife is a homemaker and also his main caregiver. The couple has three children. Eldest son Ethan (aged 32), has recently gotten married and moved out. His relationship with his parents is amicable. However, he still relies heavily on his parents for financial support, as his employment is not stable. This creates a huge amount of stress on both Mr and Mrs Park as they themselves are worried about their financial situation, especially after Mr Park's heart bypass. Youngest son Mark (aged 18) is closest to the mother. He suffers from social phobia and does not attend school. His symptoms started around the time of Mr Park's discharge from hospital. He is of age to be enlisted for National Service (NS), but he might not be able to go through military training due to his psychological condition. Mindful of his condition, the parents give him a lot of space and make no demands of him. He plays computer games at home most of the time. Their second daughter Jill (aged 26) is currently the sole breadwinner of the family. She works as an administrative assistant and contributes some money to her parents. When she was 19, she quit university after her first semester and decided to start working because she felt that her eldest brother was continuing to rely on parents for financial support. She often will feel very angry that her parents depend on her so much and do not seem to insist that her eldest brother contribute. She also feels that her parents are over protective of her younger brother. There are constant quarrels between both patient and his wife over the issues of the children and also over care for him, at times escalating into shouting marathons. Two weeks ago, tired of all the fighting, they decided to stop talking altogether. Now, they are no longer quarrelling or shouting at each other, but instead are locked in a "cold war”. Soo words Guiding Questions Read the case scenario above. For the purpose of the reflection, imagine that this is your family, and that you are another son/daughter in this family. • 1. What, in your opinion, is contributing to the family situation? 2. How would you respond as a member of this family? 3. Why would you respond in the way(s) stated for Question 2 above? Explain. (500 words)
For the purpose of the reflection, imagine that this is your family, and that you are another son/daughter in this family.
I would imagine myself as a daughter who has recently graduated and have applied for a job.
1. What, in your opinion, is contributing to the family situation?
In my opinion, the family is needs financial contribution and psychological help from a psychologist and a family counsellor.The financial aspect is quite crucial for the everyday living expenses, medications for the father, external support of caretaker, the mental heath of the mother , sister(already working) has to taken back to track.The professional help for the younger brother with social phobia is mandatory as he could be a contributing member of the family.He can join a job where he stays near to his home and psychological counseling/psychiatrist is readily available, irrespective of joining military,There are options such as, PE trainer in a school/college, part time coach for sports that he can consider.
In an overall scenario, the family is debted under financial pressure, overly stressed out elder sister(who is the sole bread earner of the family). dependency of elder brother/his wife on them and health issues of the father.
2. How would you respond as a member of this family?
As a graduated daughter I will get a suitable job and would insist the younger brother to visit the psychiatrist/psychologist to manage his life in a better way , with the existence of social phobia.SociaL phobias are treatable illness so once he gets a professional support he shall be able to join any full time or part time job nearby, instead of joining military, which has high demands.Secondly, I would urge the married elder brother to get a job that he would be able to continue for a good amount of time and his wife can also work so they are not dependent on my elder sister's monthly income.So, conclusively, if all the children of the family are working and contributing accordingly to the family's monthly expenditure, then surely the distress would not last long.
3. Why would you respond in the way(s) stated for Question 2 above? Explain
I have already mentioned in detail about my contribution in the above question. Conclusively, I would start the financial contribution. If there is any delay in my job then I may start part time jobs such as taking tuition, part time dance/ art classes , basically whatever suits my profile.I would also advice the elder sister , who is already working to meet a counselor as she seems to be very distressful at this point.The married elder brother and his wife has to independent in terms of their finances and their family decisions.
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