Question

PSYC 1101
Chapter 9
Briefly Describe at least five steps couples can take to constructively resolve conflict.

Answer 1

Conflicts are inevitable when it comes to relationships but there are certain steps which the couples can follow in order to resolve the conflicts constructively and effectively. These steps are:

• Firstly, both must understand and realise that though they are together in the relationship yet they are two different individuals with different personalities and different thinking patterns and beliefs. This realisation makes it possible to understand that differences in opinion are highly possible and that needs to be adjusted.
• Secondly, both must not be selfish and their first priority should be the harmony of their relationship. Thus, couples must think more in 'US' terms than 'I' terms when dealing with conflict resolution.
• Thirdly, a purpose must be clear for both the partners and that is a purpose to solve the conflicts in a way which will help them to have a better and more peaceful future together. This purpose is very important and both must be on the same page and congruent to their purpose.
• Fourthly, it is pretty tough for many to confront problems. It must be realised that escaping a problem only keeps it down for a short-term but in the long term these problems gets bottled up and one day it leads to such a big problem which looks impossible to resolve. This is because when the couple looks back in search of solution they only finds other unresolved conflicts and know succesful solutions. Thus, the couple must confront each other and deal with the process of facing uncomfortable talks.
• Finally, forgiveness and commitment towards improvement is the key. Thus, the couple must forgive each other and must commit to be together, empathize with each other in order to improve together as a couple so that they can solve other conflicts in the future more easily.

It must be understood that conflicts will come in the way and that can't be stopped but when we solve them without escaping we feel happy and our relationship grows through these struggles.