Question

Pick at least two actions (may be discussed in two separate posts) from the following list of parental actions and decide under what circumstances each of them can be discipline or abuse. This should be based on your own beliefs, but carefully explain your choices. In your explanation, you should consider the severity and nature of the punishment, the age of child, the seriousness and nature of the child’s behavior, the possible consequences of the parental action, and the frequency of the punishment (a punishment which occurs once may be OK, but the same punishment may be harmful if repeated.)

1. Putting hot sauce on a 5-year-old child’s tongue because he cursed at his mother.

2. Slapping a 12-year-old in the face for backtalk.

3. Spanking a 2-year-old with a hand when he refused to eat what mom cooked.

4. Putting a 5-year-old in time out for 20 minutes after she hit her brother.

5. Repeatedly calling your 14-year-old daughter a “stupid slut” after she was caught in the backseat of a car with a boy’s hand up her shirt.

6. Kicking your 16-year-old son out of the house when he flunks out of high school and refuses to get a job.

7. Hitting a 9-month-old’s hand each time she throws a toy on the floor.

8. Locking a 3-year-old in his room for 4 hours because he was having a tantrum.

9. Calling your 13-year-old child lazy and useless in front of his friends after he refuses to mow the lawn.

10. Banning your 15-year-old son from family events because his “gay appearance” embarrasses you.

11. Hitting your 11-year-old daughter with a belt because she lied about where she went after school.

12. Forcing your 8-year-old son to stand naked under a very cold shower after he broke a wineglass because he was playing with a ball in the house after being told not to.

13. Withholding food from a child each time she comes home late from school. After catching him stealing money from your purse, you hit your son hard enough to leave a bruise. Be sure to provide supporting sources for your responses.

Answer 1

1) Puting hot sauce in achilds mouth is an abusive behaviour form the mother. here the aimof the mother is not to bring any positive change in child. rather it is a revenge taken by the mother on a helpless child. the act will have along term trauma for the child. It will ahve advderse effect on childs mental helath. A child need protection and care from mother at this age to feel seure. A higher amount of insecurity will be developed in the child due to this act. There is also a higher probability that the child may transform himself into a abuser at he/she grows up

9) calling a 13 year old lazy in front of his friends will have adverse effect on achild developemnt. it is a period when a child dvelops his identity and moves through identity crisis. he also looks for approval form peers and higher authority. the said words will make scar in the mind of the child as abusing in public will ahve graeter impact than doing the same in private. tHe child may reamin hostile to the parent after this incident. the parent also need to consider emotional status of child as teenage is a period of constant emtional change and the brain is not fully developed. the decission making capapcity of a tennager is also limited. most of the decissions made here are under the influence of emotions. so the parent need to take care emotions of child in a good manner