Question

comment at least 75 words.

Growing up my search of autonomy looked a little different than a lot of kids my age. I was not very supervised growing up so learning independence came early. I remember getting my first job at fifteen and learning how to provide for my sisters at that age. There was a lot of pressure put on me at an early age. For me, gaining independence looked more like pulling away from care giving as we all got older. I had to learn to find an identity within myself that was not connected to other people. That was challenging for me because I carried to role of being the rescuer for so long. But as I got older and started to discover myself apart from that I found so much more freedom and peace. As for my kids I dont want them to have to feel like they have the same role I did. I want to give them the chance to be kids and not have to worry. I want to be around more for them and provide better for them. I think life events with parents can go one of two ways. either the child follows their foot steps or wants to be different. and in my case I want to be a different kind of parent.

Answer 1

Survival is the basic instinct of every human being. When not being in support of parents or other caregivers as a child, it comes down to learning the hard truths and survival ways to cope with the world skipping the time that is later cherished as childhood. As a person always needs support at the growing ages, they become empathetic and understand the value of it. Though they learn the worldly things by themselves, they try being supportive towards others. They also understand well when to hold someone's hand and when to let them face things alone as to learn things at the right moments in the process of growing. Being a parent at the right age is a comparatively much better position as a person has had the time to be under the care of someone and grow steadily. They have had cherished being a child, playing around and hanging around their own parent. But, when a child is unexpectedly forced upon to be a parent of a younger sibling, they face terrible struggles to survive along with taking care of the sibling. They somehow overcome most parts of their childishness earlier in life while growing up and hence understand how important it is. In most cases, they develop a better understanding of the world and humanity together than most of the population. And when they finally grow up enough and get a hold of their living with a balanced and stable settlement, providing their own children with all that they couldn't have as a child is one of the most important things that they would want to do. They would want to cherish their missing childhoods with their children in addition to being great parents.