Question

Imagine you are a “dating consultant” who gives advice on how people can improve their odds of finding a person they can date and maybe have a satisfying long-term relationship with. Suppose a new client has recently hired you; Ralph a 35-year old chemical engineer. Using what you know about propinquity, similarity, and evolutionary psychology; provide advice to Ralph about the best things HE can do to attract a woman to be in a long-term relationship with him. Suppose another new client comes along later who is female. Does any of the advice you gave Ralph change for this female client? If so explain what you would tell her to do differently than Ralph and why.

Answer 1

Note: This response is in UK English, please paste the response to MS Word and you should be able to spot discrepancies easily. You may elaborate the answer based on personal views or your classwork if necessary.

(Answer) Firstly, when an individual might be seeking a partner, they would normally have to display their best personality or aesthetic traits. For instance, if Ralph has kindness, humility and intelligence I would advise him to engage in conversations with people where he’d have the chance to exhibit those traits. Since Ralph is in his mid 30’s and a chemical engineer, one could assume that he is responsible enough to hold a good job that concerns him using a fair amount of intellect. I would advise Ralph to talk a little bit about himself, his professional life and how he likes to spend his free time. Furthermore, to engage in a fruitful conversation, I would urge Ralph to ask his potential partner about the same things and find out if the both of them have anything in common.

I would advise Ralph to build a relationship based on doing the things that they might both enjoy and find a common ground to build up on that.

Basically, any advice that I would give a client would be nuanced and tailored to their own personality. If I received a female client, the advice I would give her would be based on her own personality and would hence be completely different to the advice I would give Ralph. Although engaging in conversation would be a good start, I would advise her to talk about different things that would be based on her own personality traits.