Question

be observant of your spouse, your children, your co-workers, and/or your boss. We have a tendency to love others the way we want to be loved. Which of the languages of appreciation do they use most when interacting with others? How can you change the way you interact with them to be more loving to them in ways that speak to their own language of appreciation? What is the return on investment in a workplace from providing appreciation and encouragement to your employees?What would be two examples of authentic appreciation, if a co-worker’s language of appreciation was “Acts of Service”? Put into action, at least, one act of service that you came up with. Explain how you feel it impacted the person and/or how he or she responded. How did the act of serving someone else affect you? Do you think a person’s language of appreciation changes over time? Explain.

Answer 1

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(Answer) According to Kantian ethics, a person should respect and even treat another person in the similar way that they themselves would prefer to be treated. Perhaps this is why the Kantian principle of Universalizability is one that states that our actions and moral principle should be dictated by that which we perceive could be moral principles for everyone else too. For instance, John Doe might choose to be generous with his friends firstly because he would like people to treat him with generosity. Furthermore, John chooses to be generous because he feels that generosity is a trait that is commonly ethical to all individuals.

When one might observe their family members or their mother especially, her behaviour is more lurid than other family members. A mother might be caring, generous and generally enjoys serving guests with a lot of food. Perhaps this is because a mother might also appreciate being treated in a similar manner. This is probably why it is a mother’s day tradition to give one’s mother a good breakfast in bed.

Let us analyse our own behaviour through the lens of our relationship with our mother. Considering that most adolescent individuals might have angst or rebellion, one might exhibit those traits with our mothers too. During one’s teenage years especially, it is often that a child might be rude or in an irascible mood at home and around a mother.

Since mothers are quintessentially known for caring, worrying and pampering a child, it would be only befitting to return the sentiment by being equally polite and affectionate with one’s mother in order to speak the language of affection.

The language of affection is something that is evident with friends, acquaintances and colleagues even at work. Let us assume two particular acts of service in the workplace. The first would be as simple as purchasing a box of doughnuts once a week to distribute amongst colleagues at the workplace. This is a simple gesture to show that one might have a certain consideration for their co-workers. Also, let us assume that John Doe has a family emergency and also a deadline to complete at work. Being sympathetic, one might decide to complete his work for him so he can be with his family.

Both of these examples would enable one to be favourable and exhibit a certain level of compassion of their colleagues. This might not always be done to receive favours but rather to garner some camaraderie and expect it in return.

Serving individuals in this way helps inculcate a feeling of amity and helps build cordial relationships in social settings and units. Such gestures of politeness, compassion and simply goodness generally do not change over time. Politeness has the same value a thousand years ago as it does today.