Question

The 10 ways suggested by the article, choose your TOP THREE for parents and list them. Explain why you chose each one on your list.

1. Be mindful of the language you use to describe your children. Do not label them with words such as ‘lazy’, ‘naughty’, ‘aggressive’ or ‘mean’. Instead, look for and point out your child’s strengths.

2. Provide them with opportunities for success. Give your child age-appropriate tasks she can complete on her own. Having done so will give her a sense of pride and help build a “can do” mentality.

3. Show your children that you have faith in their goodness and in their abilities. This is a matter of language choice. For example, if your toddler, out of frustration, hits another child, you might say, “You naughty girl! How can you be so mean! I can’t believe you hit him! You’re in big trouble!” Or, you could say, “You got frustrated and hit him. It’s not ok to hit. I know you didn’t mean to hurt him. How can you express your frustration in different ways?”

4. Spend time together. A vital part of having a healthy self-concept is feeling loved and valued. Spend this time doing something fun and enjoyable for both of you, and avoid criticisms or lectures during this quality time.

5. Support your child’s interests. Learn what your child is interested in and support him in mastering that skill or accomplishing his desired level of achievement. Feeling competent and good at something grows a positive self-concept.

6. Set reasonable rules and enforce them with lovingkindness. Your rules should be age-appropriate and clear. These help your child to feel safe and learn how to manage herself. However, enforcing them with a heavy hand when your child steps out of bounds can actually erode the self-concept. It’s important to make sure your child knows that mistakes are a part of life and doesn’t mean she’s a bad person. When giving consequences, keep your child’s dignity in mind.

7. Help your child to manage his emotions and work out problems. This is why problem-solving is such a big part of positive parenting. When children learn to solve their own problems, they build confidence and, therefore, a positive self-concept. Learning to manage emotions is key to having the ability to step back from a situation and view it objectively.

8. Maintain a connected relationship. Being connected keeps the lines of communication open, and this is especially important as your child grows into adolescence. Knowing that she has you to talk to, that you will listen without casting out immediate judgment and take her feelings seriously, will help her to feel supported, safe, and important.

9. Give her the opportunity to explore her environment, ask questions without feeling like a nuisance, and engage in make-believe play activities. Children are curious and imaginative, and we must be careful not to squash those traits. To nurture curiosity and imagination, allow ample time for free play and exploration.

10. Acknowledge effort and offer encouragement. Children need to know that first place isn’t the goal, but that personal best is a win, no matter what place that lands them. As she grows, her own self-evaluation will become important to her self-concept, and she needs to learn how to emphasize her strengths and accomplishments, even if there is no trophy in the end.

Answer 1

Answer :

Definitely I will select the 1st,4 th and 7th points

Reason :

1) Childhood is a time for discovery, but labels with bad words stifles the growth and limits the potential of the child. Children always look their parents for love, support and approval. If they are told that they are bad, naughty, aggressive or lazy they absorb this message and take this belief into childhood. This will also lead to negative thoughts and feelings about themselves. Therefore, be mindful of the language to describe about children. Because children hear what parents say about them in conversations with adults. It involves direct or indirect comment about the child is. Instead, explain to the children about what they don't like about his/her behaviour and why.

2)Studies shows that spending time with children can actually improve their physical and mental health. Therefore, it is extremely important to schedule recurring quality family time with their children. This will also help to set strong boundaries with children without shaming. It is best to try schedule time atleast once every week, even if it is only an hour when we give to our children. Quality time can be spent doing something our kids love like playing together in the backyard or setting up a favourite board game. This quality time helps for kid's development and their happiness. Overall, quality time spent doing something the whole family enjoys is much better than quantity time spent together where we don't really interact with each other.

3)If parents guide their children to manage their emotions and work out problems, eventually the child will be able to deal with life's frustrations and will get the problem solving skills. Thus, child will be able to manage his /her behaviour and cope with situations of all kind. It will also provide great benefit to the parent - child relationship and the child will grow in his capacity to explain his disappointments or frustration with words rather than acting out.