Question

*Read the introduction first, then read your friend's dialogue, and choose three responses from the (44) below as appropriate response to what the said:

Dealing with Drunken Friends

Whether a night ends safely for all concerned, or disastrously, often depends on what people say to each other and themselves at crucial moments in the night. The purpose of this dialogue is to give you practice and rehearsal at making life-enhancing and life-preserving comments to friends who are determined to drive home after drinking. Even if you are unsuccessful at keeping them from driving, saying things like those on the list you’ve been given would at least hopefully help you stand your ground and take care of yourself. If you can’t save others, at least save yourself. Use the responses below for each statement your friend makes, once you have used a response you may not use it again.   

1. ____I’d rather we call for help than try to drive ourselves home

2. ____I’d rather be late getting home than never get there

3. ____I don’t like the idea of driving home in this condition

4. ____I want us to be alive when tomorrow morning comes

5. ____I want every one of us to get home safely tonight

6. ____I don’t like risking our lives by driving home like this

7. ____I’m more scared of what will happen than I am of our parents

8. ____I’m sure kids who got into accidents said the same things

9. ____I’m sure kids who got killed thought the same kinds of things

10.____I don’t want any of us to get hurt or killed driving home tonight

11.____I don’t want any of us to die on some country road tonight

12.____I’m not going to worry about what my parents might do

13.____I don’t think anything they‘d do would be that big a deal

14.____I’ll survive anything my parents could possibly do to me

15.____I’ve survived grounding before and I’ll survive it again

16.____I’m sure they probably will be upset that we drank tonight, but…

17.____I think they’ll be glad we called instead of trying to drive home

18.____I think they’ll be glad we made it home safely instead of dying

19.____I’m not going to let what they might do scare me into driving

20.____I’d rather take my chances with my parents than with an accident

21.____I care enough about all of us to call instead of trying to drive

22.____I don’t want to end up like kids who got hurt or killed driving

23.____I’m not going to let what they might do stop me from calling

24.____I’m going to do what I think is best for us no matter what

25.____I don’t want to lose someone just to avoid getting into trouble

26.____I don’t want to make the same mistakes other kids have made

27.____I don’t think our parents are our real problem right now

28.____I know I can’t make you do anything, I can only ask you to

29.____I know you can do whatever you want and I can’t stop you

30.____I don’t want to end up in an emergency room tonight

31.____I don’t want to end up going to someone’s funeral because of this

32.____I don’t want us to become another statistic of drunk driving

33.____I would never want our parents to have to identify our bodies

34.____I think we made a mistake by drinking when we had to drive

35.____I don’t want to make an even bigger mistake by trying to drive

36.____I think we blew it by not selecting a designated driver before

37.____I’m ready to take whatever’s coming to me for drinking

38.____I’d rather deal with my parents than deal with being paralyzed

39.____I don’t want to be responsible for anyone getting hurt or killed

40.____I’d rather my parents find out from me than from a hospital

41.____I don’t want my parents getting that call that all parents dread

42.____I won’t put my parents through what others have been through

43.____I know I’m important to them even if they don’t always show it

44.____I know no matter how upset they get, they wouldn’t want to lose me

Friend: Let’s go, we’ve got to get home

You:

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Friend: My parents will kill me if I’m late

You:

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Friend: My parents will kill me if they find out I’ve been drinking

You

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Friend: There’s no way I’m calling my parents

You

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Friend: We’ll get grounded for the rest of our lives

You

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Friend: Are you some kind of idiot?

You

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Friend: You’ll get us all into trouble if you call your parents

You

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Friend: You better not tell your parents we’ve been drinking

You

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Friend: Nothing’s going to happen, trust me

You

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Friend: We’ll be fine, we’ve done this before and made it

You

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Friend: Fine, be a jerk, we’ll go home without you

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Answer 1

1. Friend: Let's go, we've got to get home

You: I don't like the idea of driving home in this condition

I don't like risking our lives by driving home like this   

We call for help than try to drive ourselves home

2. Friend: My parents will kill me if I'm late

You: I'd rather be late getting home than never get there

I think they'll be glad we made it home safely instead of dying   

I want us to be alive when tomorrow morning comes  

3. Friend: My parents will kill me if they find out I've been drinking

You: I’m sure they probably will be upset that we drank tonight, but…  

I’m more scared of what will happen than I am of our parents  

I don't think our parents are our real problem right now  

4. Friend: There's no way I'm calling my parents

You: I think they’ll be glad we called instead of trying to drive home

I care enough about all of us to call instead of trying to drive  

I'm not going to let what they might do stop me from calling