Question

Given the long period of immaturity that the young of the human species have, is attachment necessarily universal? Would it be possible for a child to grow to maturity without forming attachments of some kind?

Answer 1

Attatchment is a necessary thing in the development of maturity in human beings especially in young children.I human being relationship among parents ,siblings ,peer groups etc...having defenite roles.Child grows through different developmental stages from his birth onwards .In different ages they comes in contact with different people, these all helps in their social development.

Relation and attatchment with parents and siblings.

As chilren grows through the school years , they want to spent more time with their friends and less time with their family .Adults other than family is important .Children want to make moe an more of their decisions .Parents are challenged to provide guiance without being overly restrictive or protective .Childran experience fewer failures and recover more quickly when they do fail if they know that their parents are proud of them an have faith in their competence an their resilence.Childrens whose parents belittle them an communicate doubt on their abilities usually experience more failures and less achievements in school and greater loss of self esteem than those with more supportive parents.

Parents can help children take some responsibility for some household chores and personal items.These involvements play an important role in their development of useful skills, self confidence ,and appreciation of task related to daily living.Researchs shows that children with house hold responsibilities behave in more nurturing ,helpful and mature ways than those who have no such demands upon them.

value development is affected by parents behaviour throught the child rearing years .During middle years children have the oppurtunity to apply these values in making indipendant decisions .They also test them against other alternatives .When parents and peer values conflict in matters like truth telling ,school age children often side with their peers .Self esteem is influenced by the child's self perception and her home and school experiences.Adult can help children gain or maintain self esteem by helping them feel powerful,competent ,virtous and significant.

Mothers are prefered companions ,fathers tend to encourage indipendance and assertiveness ,mothers tend to train interpersonal skills.

Siblings relationship tend to be particularly significant during middle childhood .Siblings teach and help each other .They practice social skills (expressing gratitude ,annoyance ,surprise and fear.)by interacting each other .Younger siblings emulate older ones.

School age children children expect each other to follow social norms that promote courtesy ,fair play and respect for others.Cooperation is a frequently chosen conflict resolution strategy among girls ,while bys favours competition.Peer groups support and enforce values of the adult culture .

So it is difficult for a child to grow to maturity without forming attatchments of some kind.