Question

What do we know about the relationships that have low confidence? 6. What about the ones with high confidence?

Answer 1

Low confidence affects relationships in many ways. There are so many negative side effects to list.

1. apologise for existing : ideally, we apologise when we hurt someone. But in this case the person apologises every time like for making noise , bumping into something or for no reason at all. You dont have to apologise everytime you do things. It could be a reflection of your sense of self worth.
2. being needy or clingy: people with deep insecurites and low self esteem feel unworthy of love and scared that they eill lose it all any moment, which ultimately leads to clingy behaviour as you try too hard to hold on to something. You are afraid to lose.
   
3. being a people pleaser : sometimes people overdo on kindness and helpfulness just to prove their worth. They are uncomfortable with conflict or negative emotions. So they work hard to always keep their partner happy with no concern for their own feeling.
   
4. asking for permission : living your life shouldn't be such an inconvenience to your partner that you feel the need to ask permission to live it.
   
5. enabling : enabling can include letting your psrtner make bad choices that involve you, giving them money for addictions or not making them solve their own problem.
   
6. cheating: people who feel unworthy or unloveable can find lots of ways to destroy potentially serious relationships including cheating.

other negative side effects are :

1. lying
2. being oversensitive
3. not making decision
4. not arguing
5. losing interest
6. doing more that your fair share of the work
7. not getting close to their family or friends.
8. putting everything in your partner's goal.

coming on to relationships with high confidence:

confidence is even more important when you are actually in a relationship. Because

1. You wont be jealous and controlling: you must have rock solid confidence when you partner wants to visit that attractive friend or they run into their ex while they are out without you.
   
2. you are willing to be vulnerable: when you are truly confident in yourself, you can open yourself up emotionally. You are willing to be honest all the time without worrying about judgement or rejection because you are comfortable enough in yourself.
   
3. you will have boundaries: you will draw boundaries for inappropriate behavior. No being walked over, no being controlled.
   
4. admit when you are wrong : confident people stand up for themselves when they know they are right.