Question

Jack, a rather boisterous, but well-liked American student, shared a room in an international dormitory with a Thai student named Pitchit. They seemed to get along fairly well, and Jack remarked to one of his American friends how easy Pitchit was to live with compared with some of his previous roommates, who had similar routines and interests as Jack. However, halfway through the semester, Pitchit suddenly announced he had asked for a room transfer and would be moving out next week. Jack was quite upset and puzzled, asking Pitchit why. At first, Pitchit was quite reticent, and said everything was fine. Jack persistently questioned him. At last, Pitchit said apologetically that he did not like Jack's loud music, his friends visiting him at all hours, and his untidiness. Jack was very surprised and asked Pitchit why he had not told him this before. He had not realized he was disturbing Pitchit in any way. Pitchit said nothing and moved out.

Based on your evaluation of Pitchit's behavior, rate your response on a scale from one (complete agree) to five (completely disagree).

Do you agree with what Pitchit did or said, and why? What solution might you have offered to rectify the situation between Jack and Pitchit?

Answer 1

I think I would rate Pitchit’s behaviour 3.

I am neutral about Pitchit’s behaviour, because both a positive and a negative element can be identified from his behaviour. The positive is that he was able to maintain a cordial relationship with his roommate for 6 months despite his internal disapproval. Even while leaving, he attempted to remain as personable as possible. However, the negative of his behaviour is that he was not assesrtive enough to speak up about his needs and resorted to escaping the situation instead of confronting it.

What I gather is that the conflict might be the result of a cultural difference between the boys. The solution I would offer immediately would be for them to recognise and acknowledge this difference. I would encourage Pitchit to list our his issues to Jack and give him an opportunity to rectify his bothersome behaviours. On the other hand, I would encourage Jack to be sensitive to Pitchit’s needs and respect his privacy.